Died while driving, changed starter and battery and still nothing

Starter either bad or going bad. If you battery goes dead when try to start the starter is pulling to much current.

That sound like where I would start looking first.

Can you check for continuity from the starter switch to the starter solenoid? There can be a break in the wire between there if it doesn't have some sort of anti-theft feature built in. You might also be able to run a remote starter switch to the starter solenoid to make sure you don't have a faulty starter.

HAD TO TAKE MY FREINDS TO DEALER TO RESET THE DANG THING

You may have a bad alternator. Car died while driving, either gas or fire. if you know about MAFS your should know how to check starter function by jumping solenoid to large post of battery. Check for 12V at the large post on starter. Then try to jump the two connections. If car cranks, I would check ignition circuit for faults.

Well, to begin with, the LAST thing I would replace if a vehicle died going down the highway is the starter. What caused the engine to die? It certainly was not the starter!
If the starter will not crank the engine over, you probably have a dead battery. If your battery went dead while driving the vehicle down the road, you most likely have a bad alternator. However, it is really hard to say without actually being able to see the car.

how did this problem come about tell me how the no start issue started what did the car do when it died did it die when driveing

Remove battery cables from battery and clean them, replace bolts.

have your alternator checked that may be what is draining your battery and not letting your car start after it has died

When you put the new starter in, you didn't put one of the cables back on the post. It probably grounded itself enough to start and run, then moved by vibration, or a pothole, or gravity, and killed the motor. As for the arcing battery.... are you sure you didn't attach the jumper cables to the wrong posts?