Car will run and then some time later stalls, then starts rught up and then a little bit later stalls, did this 5 times today and finally wouldn't start when the engine got hot (actually just hotter) seems like it stalled sooner as we kept starting it and running it till it stalled. The security light only came on one time. Its the v6 engine with 60K miles, changed fuel filter and that hasn't helped

You have a lot to check. Start by scanning the engine codes. There's good chance it will tell you where to look next.
The symptoms sound like fuel delivery (assuming the engine runs well when it runs). Put a fuel pressure gage on the car and verify that you are getting a constant and good pressure. Could be fuel pump, blocked lines, bad fuel regulator, or an intermittent electrical problem. I had a situation like this where the car would run fine and then just cutout or not start. Turned out to be a loose connection to the fuel pump. Easy fix. Very hard to find.