Part no for AF-S DX NIKKOR 18-55mm/F3.5-5.6G VR

Mate I googled service manual for nikon 80-400mm f/45-5.6D ED VR and found this download The first half dozen pages are typed in Japanese but here's the link-->
http://cdn-10.nikon-cdn.com/pdf/manuals/lenses/AF/AFVR_80-400mm.pdf
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There're actually two buttons. Press and hold the Info and zoom-in buttons (both marked with a green dot) for more than two seconds.

Full details are in the "Two-Button Reset" section of the manual (page 38 in my copy). If you need a manual you may download a copy from here.

That lens will work with the D3100, except for the autofocusing. In order to autofocus with the D3100, you need AF-S lenses, such as the AF-S VR Zoom-NIKKOR 70-300mm f/4.5-5.6G IF-ED or the
AF-S DX NIKKOR 55-300mm f/4.5-5.6G ED VR.

Try eBay:

http://cgi.ebay.co.uk/Nikon-Nikkor-18-200mm-AF-S-ED-DX-VR-Service-Manual_W0QQitemZ290498392786QQcategoryZ712QQcmdZViewItemQQ_trksidZp5197.m7QQ_trkparmsZalgo%3DLVI%26itu%3DUCI%26otn%3D5%26po%3DLVI%26ps%3D63%26clkid%3D5330764110047158785

Nikon currently lists two 18-55 AF-S DX and two 55-200 AF-S DX lenses. One in each pair has vibration reduction, the other does not. The ones with VR in the name have it, otherwise it doesn't.

VR isn't exactly an option. If it wasn't built into the lens initially, you can't add it later. A lens either has it or it doesn't, though if a lens has VR it can be switched off.

try thefotogeeks.com

Try sending it to PhotoTech Repair Service in NYC. They are Nikon authorized, and can do the repair under warranty if you still have it. Also if you join they're facebook page, they will give you a 10% discount.
Here is the facebook page link, it has everything you need to send it in.
http://www.facebook.com/pages/New-York-NY/PhotoTech-Repair-Service-Inc/102527215194

Seems as if you're snapping the shutter before the lens has focused. Have you tried manual focus or single-server auto focus?

Nikon: Nikkor 55-200mm f/4-5.6G IF-ED AF-S VR Sigma:70-200mm DG HSM

Which camera are you using? If the body has AF/MF switch, put that also to MF.If this fails to help, take out the lens and try to change it to MF.